Guest blog for APlatformforGood.com May 13, 2014
Raising teens and 'tweens in
today’s digitally connected world is complicated. Parents often worry about
what their kids are doing online. That’s why the best way to combat
cyberbullying, online predators, and to protect the online/offline reputation
of kids is to become “cyberwise”
– not just about the tools, but about behaviors behind them.
The first impression we give to the world is frequently online.
Everything we post on the Internet, and everything posted about us by others,
contributes to our overall reputation. When positive, it’s great, but when not,
it can be disastrous. As Cyber-safety expert Sue Scheff summed up in a recent
Huffington Post article, “Drunk driving literally ends lives.
But digital drama can potentially end a bright future for your child and their
dreams.”
A teen's digital footprint can impact their college
opportunities (and future employment). For instance, this recent study reports that 30% of college
officers view the social media pages of applicants.
Here are a few tips to help parents manage
their child’s online reputation:
1) Role Model: Many
kids are “friends” online with their parents, and it’s just as important to be
a good role model online as it is in real life. Oversharing can be risky; think
before you post photos and information about your life, and especially about
theirs. Your political, religious or controversial posts don’t just impact your
own reputation, they impact your child’s reputation and behaviors as well.
2) Establish a Foothold: Digital
real estate is becoming a serious business. Shocking as it may
seem, it’s smart to register a domain for your child at birth. This helps them
establish a foothold online before someone else does, and later they will thank
you for it.
3) Manage Their Digital Footprint: Periodically
check search engines for your child’s name and online IDs to see what’s
appearing there. Remove negative remarks, photos, etc. as soon as discovered.
Consider setting up a Google alert for regular updates of their
web mentions, news, etc. Continue maintaining their digital footprint until
they are old enough maintain it for themselves.
4) Make Passwords Private: For
most adults, “knowledge is power,” but for today’s youth, “shared knowledge is
power.” It is ok for kids to share some things, but they need guidance on how
to do it safely. Recent reports reveal that nearly 50% of
14-17 year-olds share their passwords. Teens commonly do this as a symbol of
trust, but they run the risk of having their passwords misused if they
have a falling out. No lecture needed, just chat with your kids and find out
what they already know about identity theft and how to avoid it. (See the blog “Fun With Passwords” for some ideas on how to
make safe passwords.)
5) Keep Reminding, "There is no delete
button on the Internet”: Like in Las Vegas, what
happens online, stays online. And remember: It’s not just words that travel,
but a picture says a thousand words, and videos sometimes say even more.
If you need help understanding how all of this can impact your
child’s (and your) online reputation, you might consider taking our newest
online course: Online Reputation
Management. It’s easy, fun, and will equip you with proven
strategies to be a successful online reputation manager, and to pass these
valuable skills on to your kids.
Author Cynthia Lieberman is Co-founder of Cyberwise and Cyberwise Certified, two sites dedicated to helping parents, teachers, and kids understand and use digital media safely and wisely.
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